Yoni Massage, Lingam Massage and Tantric Massage are probably terms that have been distorted and badly misuse. A man who knows how to put his fingers into a woman's vagina will claim that he knows yoni massage. Woman who knows how to do a hand job will claim that she is doing lingam massage. Most givers of Yoni or Lingam massage ended up engaging in sexual acts with their receivers. A good practitioner should be able to use his/her own sexual energy to help their receivers but yet not act out their sexual needs in a session. To me, a session of Yoni or Lingam massage that lead to sexual intercourse is call foreplay massage. So what exactly is lingam and yoni massage?
Yoni Massage The vagina is called yoni in Sanskrit and loosely translates to "a sacred space." Yoni massage is a practice intended to truly honor a woman, to give her selfless pleasure, and to explore the sacred side of our sexuality. Is also about releasing trauma and blocks in our vagina. The goal of yoni massage was never about orgasms. A trained tantra therapist will help a woman to connect to her body in this present time, to feel respected and to be able to fully express who she is. Is a session for women to learn to expand and move their sexual energy. Yoni massage is especially helpful for women who can never experience orgasms in their life or have sexual trauma that needs to be healed. For men who are not trained and claimed that they know yoni massage, their fingering act will create more trauma to a group of women who are looking for sexual healing but ended up being "Used" and "Traumatised" again. So please do check on the background of your Yoni Massage therapist if you are looking for authentic tantra healing session.
Lingam Massage Lingam is the Sanskrit word for Penis and loosely translates to "Wand of Light". Men have been programmed to be a performer in bed and the inability to perform for some men has created many performance anxiety issue. Most men are not in their body when they engaged in sexual act, they are either busy having fantasies or worry about how they are performing. Again, the goal of a Lingam massage is not the ejaculation. Is to train men to reconnect to their body in this present time, to learn to receive without the need to be in control and to use the breath to expand and move the sexual energy. Like women, past trauma are also stored in the lingam and even in the prostrate. A good therapist will also be working on trauma release.
Is a myth that all men enjoyed and loved sex. I have encountered many male clients who are highly stress and even fearful of engaging in sex and a lingam massage is a way to help them to explore their sexuality again and regain their confidence. A true tantra practitioner need to know more than massaging the Yoni or Lingam. He/she needs to understand how to use breath, sound, movement, the chakra system etc. If your intent to engage a practitioner is for healing and reconnecting to your body and exploring deep within yourself, do make sure you check out the background of the therapist that you engage.