Mindfulness has become a buzzword in the corporate world. There are more and more people interested to learn Mindfulness to manage stress, productivity and emotions. So what exactly is Mindfulness?
Mindfulness is to be fully present, to be aware of where we are and what we are doing with no judgement. When we are not mindful, our body is here but our mind is busy thinking of the past or future or some fantasy world. When we are making love with our partner or with ourselves (also known as masturbation), is your mind present time focus or does it wander off? Mindful sex or masturbation is one of the best way to practice Mindfulness, unfortunately, it is often not shared in most of the Mindfulness training as most Mindfulness teacher will not be comfortable to talk about it.
We can only feel and connect deeply with self and our partner when we are in the here and now and surrender completely with no outcome. The moment your mind is busy thinking of what is the next thing I need to do to pleasure my partner, when is she having her orgasms, when can i cum or some past memories or porn scenes, you are no longer present time focus. There is no need to beat yourself up when that happens; just bring your awareness back to the present moment and reconnect with your breath. It is normal for our busy monkey mind to wander but the more your practice, the better you will in staying present time focus and you will feel more ecstasy and bliss.